We are here to help you. When people falsify information during the divorce consultation phase it makes it very difficult for us to work through your case in the appropriate manner. If you say you have the kids 7 days a week and the soon to be divorced spouse never is around but then wait a month to inform us that for the last three years the spouse has had the kids half of the time.
This can change the entire scope of the case and create massive gaps in the settlement process. Often it is easier to come to a settlement in a case if both parties are generally happy with the other party’s conduct. That is to say that neither party is trying to hammer the other in the divorce proceeding.
If one party asks for something that is quite outlandish in contrast to what has been taking place over a very lengthy period of time then the other party is likely to respond in kind, creating a gap in the settlement. It creates a sense that one party must “give in” rather than a feeling of fairness and justice. Divorce and especially custody proceedings should never be about which party gets the upper hand on the other hand because more often than not the child ends up losing the most.
As always, remember to not speak horrible words about the child’s other parent during the divorce. Most children of divorce recognize their parents as halves of their personal being. So when you make one of a child’s parents look pathetic during the divorce litigation, you make the child feel that half of themselves is pathetic.